Birth Mother Testimonials

This is what some of the birth mothers that have come to us for help have told us:

"I first met with a counselor when I was six months pregnant. I knew adoption was best because my life was such a mess. My parents weren't talking to me because I was living with a boyfriend they didn't like. I had a 3-year-old son that was living with his father because I couldn't take the pressure of raising him. I had some complications and my daughter was born two months early. I just felt like I couldn't get my life on track. I found myself bouncing around with my daughter from place to place, going nowhere. I finally gave myself a deadline to find a safe place to live and start back to school. When my deadline passed, I decided to look at adoption again. I knew that my daughter deserved better that I could give her. At one counselor's suggestion, she went into a TLC home for a short time so I could see if I could live with adoption. I decided that adoption was best and she went to her adoptive home when she was 6 months old. I know she is doing well because I hear from her parents. I did go back to school and got my GED. Best of all, I have been able to become a mother to my son."
Kelly, age 22

"I came to Infant of Prague for counseling before I knew what I was going to do. I thought a lot about adoption but in the end I decided to keep my son and raise him myself. It's not easy, but I know I am a better mother because my counselor talked to me about parenting as well as adoption."
Cindi, age 19

"I was 14 when my Mom drove me to the ER because of a bad stomach cramps. It was then that I learned I was pregnant. I had denied to myself that I could be pregnant. My mom was in shock too! It was a hard delivery but my son looked beautiful to me. The hospital social worker called Infant of Prague and my baby was placed in a TLC home for a month while I tried to sort out what to do. I got to feed, bathe and dress my son during the visits my parents and I had at the TLC home. My Infant of Prague social worker met with my parents and me over and over again. She told me something that really made sense to me. She said my heart and my head were battling each other (my heart said to keep my baby and my head said to let him be adopted.) I was really torn up. I wanted my mom to make the decision for me but she kept saying it was my son and it had to be my decision. I finally called my counselor and told her that my head won out and I was ready to select a family for my baby. I cried, but I knew it was best for my baby boy. I gave the social worker a list of at least ten things I wanted for my son and my social worker found the perfect family for me. My son got everything that I wanted and I got to meet and stay in touch with his new family. They still send me pictures and letters."
Melody, age 18

"I had been matched with a family through a facilitator. They were a very nice family but I realized they were not the right family for me. I met with a counselor at Infant of Prague and she helped me sort out my feelings about adoption. I looked at several albums of waiting families and found one that was just perfect for my daughter."
Heather, age 17

This letter is from the Mother of a Birth Mother:

"My daughter was only 16 when she became pregnant. She was afraid of disappointing us so didn't tell us she was pregnant right away. We felt like failures because she didn't feel she could talk to us. I called Infant of Prague to see how they could help. Our whole family received counseling and participated in the agency's support group. There were several other grandparents-to-be in the group so we never felt alone. We met with a counselor for five months. She never pressured us. She gave Susie lots of homework on what to expect if she decided to keep the baby. Susie finally realized she was too young to be a mother and she need to finish growing up herself. She hadn't even finished high school yet. We never told anyone about the baby – we didn't want to have to deal with the reaction of other people. We selected a perfect family for our grandson and my daughter slipped back into school. To this day we still meet occasionally with the adoptive family and know how our grandson is doing. Susie finished school and now has a good job."
Helen, age 39

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